Marriage and Finances

Marriage is God's most sanctified and eternal bond between two souls. It is also the most misunderstood and challenging relationship that two people could share in the highest intimate realm. As the saying goes "Marriages Are Made in Heaven", this union has the power to make your home either Heavenly Abode or a Living Hell.

Modern-day marriages are failing and falling apart like dominoes. The youth today nod in vehemence that they don't want the burden of uncertainty and lifelong insecurities. Marriages are causing depression, anxiety and trust issues, financial disparities between spouses and families.

It has become a bone of contention between parents and children who have come of age and are searching for a suitable life partner. Speak of marriage in front of children and out comes a list of probable problems, hurdles, and difficulties that seem unsurmountable. Though it is a known fact that there are lots of difficulties on the way to marriage, which cannot be neglected, to tackle these obstacles and to aim for a fulfilling married life is also vital for the preservation of mankind.

In any case, difficulties and hindrances need to be acknowledged and their solutions and remedies must be found. These remedies and solutions are of two kinds: one is long term and the other is short term. The long-term ones are mostly related to the intelligentsia, the rulers, reformers, think tanks and the trainers of the nation and society, who should seek solutions for the entire society and its welfare. And the short-term ones are mostly connected to the youth and their parents themselves, who must seek the immediate solution as to what must be done in these circumstances and conditions.

I wish to discuss the short-term remedial measures that the youth and parents can implement to eradicate any possible friction on the path of marriage. One of the major reasons people become apprehensive about tying the knot is financial and economical difficulties like uncertain job opportunities, lack of financial stature and stability in society, unrealistic expectations of wealth both from within and outside of families crush the spirit of youth. When women have such hollow and vain parameters for deciding the worthiness of their male suitor, it adds to the frustration of men.

I have personally seen and observed and touched this in many cases among my friends and acquaintances who did not have a house or wealth at the time of their marriage, but later on, became house owners and wealthy. Very rarely have I seen people possessing a house and material sources before marriage. Is it not more befitting to the partners to enter into the holy matrimony and then seek financial or monetary stability in years to come.

I know cases where some people were provided with a house and money before marriage, but interestingly, they too were confronted with a cold, spiritless life because they kept putting off and delaying their marriage for the procurement of house and money. Since they wasted the spring of marriage that is the valuable period of youth to run after material wealth, they too missed the beautiful experience of marital bliss in their youth.

After marriage, new horizons and vistas open up before one, which did not exist before. The individual feels more responsible to manage the new life, procure the livelihood, and save the family's honor. Thereby, he utilizes all his potential capabilities and hidden talents: fresh inspiration sprouts up from his interior; talents that he was unaware of are revealed. He finds a new and energetic personality inside himself.

The younger generation should understand that resting beside a kind, intimate and sympathetic life partner, all the problems, pressures, agonies of single life, loneliness, feelings of scornfulness and shortcomings are forgotten, and as a consequence, the human soul blossoms and the keenness and eagerness towards progress and completion bloom in him, and man flies up towards the height of completion and prosperity. A large number of people after marrying a suitable spouse, have found for themselves new personalities, become new persons, and their journey towards all ends picked up acceleration and speed.

This progress and development of new horizons contain and consists of economic affairs as well and the youth explores new ways and means of livelihood and procuring income. He becomes brave and dauntless in his economical matters, expansion of his job and business. As a result, his income is boosted and increases by these activities. Economical problems and hardships are removed one by one. I hope this blog removes the notion that one must only marry when one reaches a certain financial goal in life and also serves as a healthy reminder to women who should allow the men to toil and earn their livelihood under the shade of their unconditional support and love.

Know that every success has many other successes following it and every new victory brings other victories.